Marital Advice From A Polygamist

wedding ringsSolomon was a smart guy.

But when it came to sex and marriage, his wisdom came not from reason but the hard way, from experience…a lot of experience.

You see Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines.

And not just that, but he loved many foreign women: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian and Hittite women. 

He even had the daughter of Pharaoh.

Solomon had so many exotic women it would make  [the original] Captain Kirk blush. Continue reading “Marital Advice From A Polygamist”

If You Are Praying About Getting Married

Last Sunday after church my wife and I had lunch with some single women from our church.

The conversation turned to marriage.

One of the women mentioned she had received a word from another Christian that she would marry a particular person.

This was a cause of some distress because she was not even remotely attracted to that person.

I told her that God might tell her not to marry someone she wanted to marry, but He would not tell her to marry someone she did not want to marry.

Now, I don’t have a scripture for that. In fact, the Lord told Hosea to marry a prostitute and Im guessing Hosea had different thoughts on the subject. (Hosea 1:1-3).  But unless you have been called as a prophet to Israel, I think my advice is sound. Continue reading “If You Are Praying About Getting Married”

What I Love Most About My Wife

There are lot of reasons I love my wife.

She is beautiful, selfless, smart, witty, full of life, and a much better person than I deserve. And I almost forgot, she likes me, which is another reason I love her.

All these things I’ve listed are important and are probably things that everyone looks for in a spouse. None of them, however, are the most important thing I love about my wife. The best thing about my wife is she loves the Lord more than me.

I know this sounds kind of backwards, particularly if you are not a Christian.  The idea of encouraging your spouse to love someone more than you is not an idea you would come to on your own, but it’s the only sound foundation for a marriage. Continue reading “What I Love Most About My Wife”

3 Tips For A Better Marriage

I’m no expert on marital counseling. I’m not even sure how good a husband I am.

I’m one of those fortunate people who married a fantastic woman.  My wife is beautiful, charming and the most selfless person I’ve ever met. So, I suspect I’ve had it easier than most.

But in having been happily married for twenty years, I have learned a few things I can pass on to those just starting out.

My wife and I do three things that are fundamental; I’d even call them no-brainers. Yet I bet only a small percentage of married people do them consistently well. Continue reading “3 Tips For A Better Marriage”

For Singles Only

When I was single, like most singles I hoped to get married one day.  At some point, I began to pray for my future wife, even before I knew who she was.

I prayed that she would have all the characteristics I wanted in a wife.  The list was long and the bar set high.

One day while praying for my future wife a thought hit me, a thought I am convinced was from the Lord.  Thoughts so piercing and objective about ourselves rarely originate from within.

The thought was that instead of praying that my wife would have all the characteristics I wanted in a woman, I needed to begin praying the Lord would make me the kind of man worthy of the kind of woman for which I was praying. Continue reading “For Singles Only”